Overview
It is rather tough to measure someone’s intentions in sites like online dating sites in South Africa. Mostly this app is there as a hookup tool where you get to know the person first before moving on to a meaningful date. If you know what you are looking for in an individual and you can say it directly then you can ask that person as bluntly as you can manage. But what if you want to promote a more lasting relationship and you are not aware of what the other person has in mind.

What questions to ask and what those probable answers would be and could mean?

1. Ask him what you will do on your first date? If he is that someone who is not eager to go into a relationship he will surely avoid the word date, and would prefer hung out. Even so, his answer can already give you the clue of what his intentions are. If he will invite you to a bar, or to his place. Then there is more to that.
2. “So, what are you into?” If he is into sex, then he will be telling you something related to that, but if he will tell you he plans to go hiking with you with his dog, then he is telling you that he is a bit reserve and will still test the waters too.
3. “So, why did you join the site” he can then reason out what he clearly wants to. But in this case his answer will already add up to the previous one and will give you a better idea.
4. “Are you looking for a more serious relationship or just wants to have fun? At this point you only need to confirm what your idea of him is after your 3^rd question.

Final Thought Asking a guy in the above manner will not put you in a state where you will be wrongly identified. If a long lasting relationship is your reason for joining then you have to be clear of what the other person has in mind.